I had great intentions of writing a post about what I learned from my first year of marriage. I even asked some of my friends to weigh in on the subject, so I could share the love in terms of advice. One particular (and so very gracious) friend, Katie, who will be celebrating her first wedding anniversary in September, volunteered to share her thoughts. When I received the e-mail, I gasped. And then I immediately asked if I could share and give her the credit, because she did a better job than I ever could.
I can’t believe how fast this year has flown by for us. For the longest time, my reply when people would ask when we got married would be, “This past August.” It took me awhile to realize that saying this in June would result in people giving me puzzled looks. I guess it’s true what they say, time flies when you’re having fun. This past year has been an incredible experience of changes, growth and love, and I am so excited for many, many more.
I can’t believe that only two weeks ago, we were lounging on the Italian coast, drinking Prosecco and soaking up the sun from another another side of the world. We had such an incredible time on our trip, that I am still waking up in the middle of the night hoping I can hear the sound of waves crashing through our open windows.
When we got married last August, I had changed jobs that same month and previously did not have enough time off accrued to take a long vacation post-nuptials. It was a recipe for honeymoon disaster. Prior to realizing we wouldn’t have the time, we initially thought we would like to do Central America, specifically Belize. We realized it was likely the worst time to go, weather wise and then figured we wouldn’t have enough time for a destination honeymoon. We threw out many ideas of how we could spend our first vacation as a married couple, and eventually decided that a Mini-Moon was going to be our best bet.
If you’re like me and a lot of my friends, you felt a little ridiculous (and overwhelmed) after your wedding when you thought about all of the decorations you accumulated. And, let me guess, you have no idea what to do with all of it? I went on a gold buying frenzy and amassed so many gold decoration pieces, there is no way a human being can co-exist with that much of one color in their home. Alas, it was all relegated to a designated area of our home. And now, my husband affectionately refers to one of our guest rooms as, “the room with all of the wedding crap.”
Have you ever heard of The 5 Love Languages? I had heard it mentioned a few times before, but never investigated it further. One of my friends told me that she and her husband took the online quiz and it was very informative for their relationship. I decided to take the quiz for myself, and it provided me further confirmation and awareness on areas I view as important in any relationship. More importantly, it also gave me insight into what I may not be doing right…
Today marks the 32nd year this babe of a man has graced the planet. And I couldn’t be happier to wish him the best day and year. For those of you that do not know Andy, he is quite modest and would likely be embarrassed to know I have dedicated an entire blog post to his birthday (Oops.) But…I love to gush about him.
While relishing in using the new term fiancé and being confronted with hundreds of questions and decisions, the time between, “YES!” and “I do,” can prove to be both a stressful and exciting time for any couple. Emotions run high. It’s not difficult to lose sight of planning for a marriage (rather that just the wedding), when you are spending all of your free time making decisions for the big day. Once you’re asked the most important question of your life, The New York Times has followed up with an additional 13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married that would benefit any couple prior to walking down the aisle.