Whenever I return from a trip, whether its a weekend getaway or an overseas endeavor, I am instantly planning my next one. Without fail. I have the travel bug, and the only cure is the hair of the dog. I believe we are all born with the desire to travel, that can only be activated by getting outside our comfort zones and seeing new parts of the world. In this installment of advice to my younger self, it would be to travel more.
Advice to my Younger Self
“This too shall pass.” I have never been one that’s been inclined to get a tattoo. If I had been, I wish I would have gotten this phrase tattooed to my forehead (or maybe somewhere less discreet and visible to me, like my inner wrist.) This proverb never previously carried much weight for me, until recently. And it has become a saying that I have relied upon heavily. My advice to my younger self would be to get that tattoo (just kidding!)—It would be to really understand this proverb and the heavy significance it can hold in your life.
My friends treated me to a belated birthday girls weekend to Santa Cruz recently, which included a relaxing spa day. During my massage, where I typically don’t say a word (or fall asleep!), I decided to start talking with my massage therapist. We began to exchange stories, and much to my surprise, we had a very similar outlook on life. We both shared about disappointments and how these experiences shaped our current mindsets. She shared that she noticed a difference when she began to take responsibility for her choices, thoughts and her feelings. She realized that no one else was responsible for these things when she owned her own process, and she had the power within herself to make changes. She said, “It was so liberating!” And I was thoroughly inspired. I found it to be very fitting advice to give to my younger self.
This post is dedicated to my 24 year old self. And also to any of you that have recently experienced a huge letdown. You see, disappointments happen everyday. Some are small, like they no longer have focaccia bread when you go to order your favorite turkey/cran sandwich. Whereas, some are much more severe, like the end of a relationship you imagined would last forever. Every once in a while, I think back to a situation that left a lasting and profound impact on my life. One that I had complete control over, yet had an err in judgment and it altered the course of my life. At that time, I was devastated and embarrassed. Now, I can only appreciate the path it has led me down. Because there is always a rainbow, after the rain.
Do you remember that one scene from Mean Girls where the “Plastics” stand around the mirror in Regina George’s room complaining about their bodies? Regina laments over has man shoulders, Gretchen Weiners hates her calves, Karen Smith can’t stand her hips. And Cady Heron, who grew up in Africa, is confused by all of this public body shaming and shares hesitantly that she has bad breathe in the morning. But this comical exchange does not just happen in the movies. It happens amongst friends, children overhear it from adults and the love/hate relationship and inner dialogue we develop about our bodies is prevailing.
As I quickly approach 30 (in only a couple short weeks), I have been giving a lot of thought to the things I have learned in my 20’s. While visiting my best friend and her husband this past weekend with Andy, we started talking about blogging ideas over Valentine’s dinner at this fun Sushi spot (accompanied by DIY s’mores for dessert!). My best friend typically has wonderfully original ideas and has been a blog follower for quite some time. She suggested doing a series on “advice to my younger self.”