Before I interviewed for my first job post-grad school, I had a telephone conversation with my prior supervisor. She encouraged me to write down what I am looking for in a position, and to remember that you I am interviewing them, just as much as they are interviewing me. I took some time to write down everything I was currently looking for: a salaried position with benefits (Coming off of 7 years of college/grad school combined, this was a deal-breaker!), the opportunity to earn hours towards licensure, ability to work with the population I had experience with, potential for advancement, and professional development. When I went on my first interview for the position I later accepted, the first question they asked me was, “What are you looking for in a job?” My nerves were immediately calmed, and this process was solidified for me in various aspects of my life.
I wrote earlier this week about my resolution to strive for balance this year. I decided that it would be easiest for me to make small changes each week to gain momentum. This week, I opted for 3 simple healthy changes that I knew could be achievable and would produce noticeable benefits in my week. Since I ended up feeling more relaxed, yet energized this week, I thought I would share these 3 changes with you.
It’s interesting how you hear about so many concepts, ideas or things on a daily basis, but the ones that tend to stick, or that you see everywhere are the ones that have your conscious attention. We did an activity during a work meeting recently regarding our core values, and now I see articles and exercises for core values everywhere. I found it very helpful and thought I would share the new knowledge I have gained with you.
When I was in graduate school, while studying existential psychology, my professor gave us an assignment to write our own obituary. He asked us to detail the year we were born, how we died, our accomplishments and those we preceded in death. To my recollection, I have never missed an assignment in my life. I also didn’t miss any of my grad school classes because they seemed far too imperative for my career. But, for this particular assignment for this particular class on that particular day, I completely blew off the assignment and opted out of attending that day.
I stumbled upon this post recently and actually saved the .pdf version to give to some of my high schoolers* because I liked it that much. I feel the best way to handle things when you don’t feel okay is to be prepared. When you’re in crisis mode, or feeling really down, sometimes the last thing you want to do is problem solve. And to be honest, sometimes the last thing you’re able to do is problem solve. These simple questions, written by a smart cookie that clearly knows her best way to self-care, would be great to have on hand if you’re prone to depression, anxiety, or just having a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day.
I could eat an acai bowl for breakfast every. single. morning. I feel like I am eating dessert, except I am definitely getting my daily servings of fruit in before I even step foot out of the door. With Summer on the horizon, it’s the perfect breakfast to enjoy on lazy Sunday mornings by the pool. I wanted to figure out how to make my very own acai bowl and came up with a recipe that’s packed with protein and chocolate flavor (minus the guilt!) and cost-effective to boot.
I attended a training recently where the presenter showed us a video clip to illustrate a skill, and it has been on my mind ever since. The video clip was from Brené Brown, Ph.D, a research professor, who also happens to be one of my favorite authors. This clip beautifully highlighted the differences between empathy and sympathy. I believe as we grow, we are reflexively shown, modeled and trained to provide sympathetic responses in times of pain, disappointments and loss. Brown shows us how we may have been doing it wrong all along.
What if I told you that the secret to an improvement in your level of happiness was as simple as expressing gratitude? According to recent research, this little thing called gratitude has BIG benefits. Gratitude can be attributed to an improvement in your physical and emotional well-being, prosocial behavior, enthusiasm, energy, optimism—the list goes on and on. What’s incredible about gratitude is that it costs next to nothing to be grateful. It also takes a small fraction of your day to express it. And the benefits and improvement in the quality of your life are tremendous.